Disagreements can still be civilized

The work of doctors is shielded by hospital walls; the work of lawyers, by courtroom decorum; and some utility workers, by underground tunnels.
While the public is affected by the results of the work of those three occupations, their work is mostly away from the visibility of the public eye.
That is not the case for anyone who works in media circles where the printed or aired word is there for public consumption and judgment. The public can be both critical and complimentary, depending on mood, personal bias and perception. Because it is in the public domain, members of the public assume ownership and feel quite free to express an opinion on what is written and reported.
After 41 years in this business, I accept that whatever I write, and whatever I say in public is fair game for whatever comments readers which to make. I might not always agree with their assessment, but I fully accept their ability to have and express whatever opinions they wish to maintain.
They likely won't change my mind, and I don't feel the need to change theirs. That's what freedom of speech is all about, that's what comes from living in a democracy. They think and speak at will, and in opinion pieces, that's exactly what I do too.
What interests me can't be expected to interest 100 per cent of the readers 100 per cent of the time. Nor do I profess to be interested in every topic that is of importance to every person who lives in this community. Tolerance on both sides is the trademark of civilized human beings.
There are some instances where I draw the line:
‰ Don't call or write and refuse to provide your name. It is so easy to have an opinion if you don't have the courage of your convictions. Put your name out there and I'll be happy to converse or read your communication. You have my name and phone number and you know where I work - I'd be satisfied with your name, your real name, not a phoney name on an e-mail.
‰ My ears sometimes ring with the tone of voice and the words being used. I'm not deaf, nor do I appreciate being cursed at. If you can't tell me off without using foul language, then spend some time with a dictionary before you dial my number. It might be rude of me, but I tend to hang up after the first or second curse.
‰ Admittedly I have developed a thick skin over the years but my family isn't part of the package. I don't appreciate having my parentage and my background vilified by anyone, even if you have identified yourself and haven't sworn at me in the first sentence. Personal attacks won't change my opinion, and only make me less inclined to value your comments.
So to recap - if you want to chat, just call my number, give your name, and let's have a conversation.
But if you don't want to follow the rules, you could make better use of your time by calling someone who hopefully has his hearing aids turned off.

Joyce Walter can be reached at 691-1259.