“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”
— Willie Nelson
In 2013, if I learned one thing it was that Willie Nelson knows what he is talking about — well, on this matter anyway.
Although I have always thought myself to be a positive person, it wasn’t until New Year's Eve 2012 that I realized that, in fact, I wasn’t.
I didn’t wake up in the morning thinking to myself “this is going to be a great day.” I would instead wake up to the sound of my children and wish for 10 more minutes of sleep.
I didn’t look out the window and see how beautiful my yard truly is; instead I would look at the toys that were left on the lawn, the flowers that needed to be watered or the grass that needed to be cut.
I didn’t think about my day and pick out all the good things that happened, I would think back and dwell on whatever went wrong.
At the time it seemed that no matter how much effort I put in to getting done what I needed to get done, there was never enough hours in the day to do it and it was exhausting.
Time was flying by and to top it off my maternity leave was quickly coming to an end and I would be adding work back into the mix.
My energy, attitude and outlook were at an all-time low and it was dictating the way I lived my life.
I didn’t know if I wanted to go back to work, I didn’t know if I wanted to stay home, I didn’t know what I wanted to do. And when I was trying to make my decision, I was only looking at the negative side of both opportunities — and that’s what they were, opportunities, but because I was so focused on the negatives I couldn’t see that.
All I could see was something else to eat up my time.
Fast forward to New Year's Eve.
I was organizing my son’s room when I stumbled upon a book I had bought. It was a book that was recommended to me when I was going through a similar transition a couple years back and although I had full intentions of reading it back then, like many things in life, it got placed on the shelf to collect dust.
However, this time I took the book down, dusted it off and began to read.
As I went from page to page, I quickly realized I was doing the opposite of everything the author was suggesting one do when trying to live the live they are meant to live.
All the positivity I thought I was sending out into the world was being cut off at every corner by the negativity that followed. I was disappointed in myself for not seeing this sooner. That was when I decided to make a change for the better.
I have made many resolutions in the past and failed miserably, but this time was going to be different.
With the guidance of my new book, a fresh start in 2013 and a new outlook on life, it didn’t take me long to see how much I was missing, both in my life and the lives of those I love.
I re-entered the workforce happy and refreshed, which I think my co-workers can appreciate. I had the energy to play, which my babies definitely appreciated and I was a better friend, which I know my friends appreciated.
Relationships changed for the better, new friends were made and over-all 2013 turned out to be a year to remember.
It may sound crazy to some but Willie got it right.
Once I got over myself, switched out the negative for the positive, good things began to happen.
I don’t know if I can top 2013, but I do know I am going to try.
Whatever you decide your resolution is going to be for 2014 make it great, make it count and make a difference, big or small.
“All you can change is yourself, but sometimes that changes everything!”
— Gary W. Goldstein
Lyndsay McCready can be reached at 306-691-1263 or follow her on Twitter @Newsielou