"It’s not what’s on the outside but what is on the inside that makes a person beautiful,” said any intellectual person out there.
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And although I feel this phrase is 100 per cent true, according to a friend’s blog and a global study, only two per cent of women find themselves beautiful. This is a sad reality.
But what do we expect?
The majority of women and men society — and more importantly, children — are exposed to and in turn believe to be the social norm are the Hollywood elite, who have make-up and hair teams at their disposal, and the models who grace the covers of magazines, print ads and commercials.
To the naked eye, those people look nothing like their photos. Even the reality stars have had their appearances enhanced by any number of tricks, surgeries, products or teams of people making them look the way they do.
The definition of beauty is forever changing.
At one point in history a curvy woman was the definition of beauty.
When you look at historical paintings the women you see are not stick- thin or toned with six-packs, they are round, curvy, soft and beautiful.
Men and women alike were entranced by the starlets of the ‘50s like Marilyn Monroe, Diana Dors and Elizabeth Taylor. Our own generation does have its own curvy women, but even they seem to be willing to give up their boobs and booties to conform to this new definition of beauty.
One just has to look at the Victoria’s Secret runway to see how, year after year, although the show continues to grow, the models continue to disappear — not literally but physically.
This is not to say these ladies are not healthy, because there are many slim people who work hard, eat right and look the way they do for a reason.
The problem is that, in today’s society, we want instant gratification.
We see these beautiful women and men and want to be just like them or as close as possible as quick as possible. We don’t think about the work, we think about the quick fix, the fad diets, and the new pills we can take to get us out of doing the work.
And when these methods don’t work we get down on ourselves, pick apart what is left of our self-esteem and conclude we are not beautiful because we don’t look like the girl or guy looking back at us from the pages of a magazine.
Well, guess what? We are not paper, we are not computer generated and we are not meant to be universal.
Each person is meant to look different, be an individual and possess their own unique qualities.
This is going to sound cliché, but if we all looked, acted and dressed the same, how boring would that be?
I do pride myself on maintaining a good appearance, and I would be lying if I said I didn’t, but what I find beautiful may not be what the person sitting next to me on the bus finds beautiful, and that’s the beauty in it all.
By expressing what beauty is to each of us, we are sharing our beauty with the world, rewriting the definition of beauty over and over again and introducing new forms of beauty to those who are willing to accept it.
A beautiful person is an accepting person, a person who accepts and enhances their own beauty by taking in the beauty around them.
For one reason or another, whether it be because of technology or society, we tend to keep our thoughts to ourselves. We don’t tell the person beside us we like their shirt, or how pretty we think their hair looks. We don’t engage in conversations to find out who they are or where they are from or how their day is going.
Some of us do, but many of us don’t. We try to teach children that beauty is on the inside and not the outside, but how do we teach them to find that beauty if we don’t teach them how to look for it?
It’s time to stop focusing on artificial beauty, stop focusing on the negatives we can’t control, and stop focusing on the phones, tablets or whatever pieces of technology we have at any given moment in our hands. It’s time to start focusing on each other.Today, give one person a compliment and see how it not only changes their day, but yours as well.
Beauty is on the inside, so share a little of yours today.
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