Valentine’s Day has always been, and always should be, about love.
I don’t mean love you can buy in a store, even though commercialism has a strong foothold in this society. Valentine’s Day should be about being with the ones you love.
Unfortunately, with all the marketing and pushes we see and hear, Valentine’s Day focuses on couples. It can make anyone who is single feel that there is something wrong with us or that we should be sad because we’re alone.
Speaking as someone who is single, I think it’s important for all single people to know that there is nothing wrong with being single. Sure, we might have aspirations of one day being in a relationship or finding someone, but we can’t make that who we are.
Each of us is special in our own way and being with someone or being single isn’t what makes us beautiful.
Entertainment has made it harder and harder for us to believe that. We constantly see the girl end up with the guy on TV and in movies.
We see guys and girls who aren’t in a relationship feeling left out. We’ve seen this kind of thing since we were little when in movies and TV, everyone lives happily ever after with Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Add on the advertisements pushing the benefits of being in a relationship and how you’re not happy until you’re in one.
It’s easy to start to believe those things and feel bad about yourself for not being in a relationship, especially if your close friends are in a relationship and you aren’t.
But being single is not a crime. It has its perks. You have the freedom to make choices for you. You can think of what’s best for you instead of what’s best for us. In other words, you can appreciate your independence.
You don’t have to feel like you’re in a forced relationship — and if you’re in a relationship that makes you feel trapped, you should get out of it.
Being in a relationship has its benefits too, if you’re in the right one. You can be with someone you trust, someone you love and someone who will be there for you and someone you can be there for. When you’re truly in love or with someone you care about and who cares about you, it is a great feeling. However, people who are single experience those feelings too, just in a different way. Being single doesn’t mean we don’t have people we love or those who love us. We have family. We have friends. Sure, it’s a different type of love, but love is love and we should appreciate that.
There is no need to feel alone on Valentine’s Day, even if, like me, you are single. This becomes harder with age, from what I understand, because another social pressure is that by a certain age we are “expected” to no longer be single and get into a relationship and maybe even settle down.
That too is nonsense. There is no rush. There is nothing wrong with staying single for as long as we feel fit. We need to be comfortable with who we are and remember, dating and being in a relationship isn’t everything.
I still maintain that Valentine’s Day is about love, but it shouldn’t be restricted to love in a romantic relationship. Spend your time with friends or family who you love and who love you.
Don’t ever lose that love for yourself because there is nothing wrong with you for being single, no matter your age.
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