What we think of ourselves and how we look is still a problem.
It’s the way our society is built. We are blasted with images of how we should want to look, shown over and over again what it means to be beautiful and what products we should buy or use to make ourselves look that way.
This is wrong on so many levels. I wish everyone could understand that we are all beautiful in our own ways.
Yet one of my Facebook friends shared something this week where she watched two seven-year-old girls weigh themselves at the gym. She went on to say one of the girls asked the other if she was fat. She added the mother was within earshot.
I am heartbroken about this scenario. These girls are seven. Seven. Yet already they are concerned about being fat. It’s likely they are also thinking they’re not beautiful enough because they need to change.
There is a huge difference between being healthy and being beautiful. We are all human, but none of us are exactly alike. From our looks to our body composition to our personalities to our height, we are all unique. I believe this is an extremely beautiful concept.
For us females, we are constantly told that we need to be super thin with flowing curves and wear makeup to be perfect. After all, that’s what we see in magazines or on television or in movies or in other advertisements.
News flash: No one can actually look the way you see people in magazines. Everyone gets pimples now and then. The women in magazines are often too skinny, just look at Barbie, and it’s not actually healthy or good-looking to be that way. Just because you don’t have curvy hips or don’t wear makeup doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful.
Of course we can all have expectations on a healthy weight we want to maintain or achieve. Having those goals by taking fitness classes or working out at the gym is great.
But a healthy weight isn’t the tiny little sticks for bodies we see all the time. Healthy weights depend on our age and on our height. However, we need to remember that there is no perfect look, no singular way to be wonderful. There are countless ways to be beautiful.
And looks aren’t the equivalent of happiness either. At the end of the day it’s our actions that will stand for who we are, our personalities, our likes and our dislikes.
We are all like snowflakes in a way. A Washington Post article (Why no two snowflakes are the same) stated on a technical level it is possible for two snowflakes to be identical, the likelihood of that ever happening is “incredibly unlikely.”
There are so many snowflakes with so many different possible combinations, making each snowflake geometrically different. It is estimated that around a septillion, which spelled out looks like 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000, snowflakes fall each year. Yes, that’s a one followed by 24 zeros.
Ignoring the fact that it signals winter — which is a big dislike for me and I suspect, many of us —all of the snowflakes are beautiful crystals.
The current population of the world isn’t a septillion. It’s estimated to be about 7.26 billion. Every 7.26 billion of us is different in our own way.
We have wrongly set our definition of beautiful.
So let’s set a new one. Beautiful is who we are. Beautiful is what we make of ourselves. Beautiful is what we do. We are beautiful. You are beautiful. Period.
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